Warning
signs of child abuse and neglect
Warning signs of emotional abuse:
- Excessively
withdrawn, fearful, or anxious about doing something wrong
- Shows
extremes in behavior (extremely compliant, demanding, passive, aggressive)
- Doesn’t
seem to be attached to the parent or caregiver
- Acts
either inappropriately adult (taking care of other children) or
inappropriately infantile (thumb-sucking, throwing tantrums)
Warning signs of physical abuse:
- Frequent
injuries or unexplained bruises, welts, or cuts
- Is always
watchful and “on alert,” as if waiting for something bad to happen
- Injuries
appear to have a pattern such as marks from a hand or belt
- Shies
away from touch, flinches at sudden movements, or seems afraid to go home
- Wears
inappropriate clothing to cover up injuries, such as long-sleeved shirts
on hot days
Warning signs of child neglect:
- Clothes
are ill-fitting, filthy, or inappropriate for the weather
- Hygiene
is consistently bad (unbathed, matted and unwashed hair, noticeable body
odor)
- Untreated
illnesses and physical injuries
- Is
frequently unsupervised or left alone or allowed to play in unsafe
situations
- Is
frequently late or missing from school
Warning signs of sexual abuse in children:
- Trouble
walking or sitting
- Displays
knowledge of sexual acts inappropriate for their age, or even seductive
behavior
- Makes
strong efforts to avoid a specific person, without an obvious reason
- Doesn’t
want to change clothes in front of others or participate in physical
activities
- An STD or
pregnancy, especially under the age of 14
- Runs away
from home
Risk factors for child abuse and neglect
While abuse and neglect
occurs in all types of families, children are at a much greater risk in certain
situations.
Domestic violence. Even if the abused parent does their best to
protect their children, domestic
violence is still extremely damaging. Getting out is the best way to
help your children.
Alcohol and drug abuse. Parents who
are drunk or
high may be unable to care for their children, make good parenting
decisions, or control often-dangerous impulses. Substance abuse can also lead
to physical abuse.
Untreated mental illness. Parents
who are suffering from depression,
an anxiety
disorder, bipolar
disorder, or another mental illness may have trouble taking care of
themselves, much less their children. A mentally ill or traumatized parent may
be distant and withdrawn from their children, or quick to anger without
understanding why. Treatment for the caregiver means better care for the
children.
Lack of parenting skills. Some
caregivers never learned the skills necessary for good parenting. Teen parents,
for example, might have unrealistic expectations about how much care babies and
small children need. Or parents who were themselves
victims of child abuse may only know how to raise their children the way they
were raised. Parenting classes, therapy, and caregiver support groups are great
resources for learning better parenting skills.
Stress and lack of support. Parenting
can be a very time-intensive, stressful
job, especially if you’re raising children without support from family and friends, or you’re dealing with relationship problems
or financial difficulties. Caring for a child with a disability, special needs,
or difficult behaviors is also a challenge. It’s important to get the support
you need, so you are emotionally and physically able to support your child.